Spring is the season of fresh starts.
Every first day of the year, most of us spend a few hours with a new journal or word document with our best intentions to make this year's resolutions stick. Despite research that says that less than 10% of us will actually follow through with those resolutions, we go through the same ritual the next year.
Yesterday, spring officially kicked off. Although for those of us in central Texas, it feels like spring has been here for a while, our spring was ushered in with a couple of beautiful green days with crisp and cool weather.
Another chance for a new beginning.
Spring is one of those times of year that many of us start thinking about how we can start over. We clean out those cabinets that have been accumulating garbage. We put junk out in the front for the city to come clean up.
We decide to get in the gym again to get ready for summer which will show up in about...five minutes.
But what our marriages?
Have we been accumulating any junk in the closet of our relationships that need to be cleaned out? Relationship distress has a tendency to fester beyond repair if left unattended. Is it time to start working on our relationship fitness before we run out of breath?
There are more reasons than I can count why spring is a good time to ask yourself whether it's time to make some changes in your relationship.
Spring is the season of new growth. It is the earth's declaration that new life is coming. I'm looking out over my backyard as I write this. We have a number of young and old trees. Spring is everywhere on these trees. Trees both young and old sprout beautifully bright and neon green leaves.
Some couples worry that they're too far gone to change. They tell me that they've been together too long, or that they know each other too much to experience something new...which always reminds me of those trees.
It doesn't matter how old they are, each season, old trees bring forward something new.
When something new develops, the old must be understood. Examined. Mourned or celebrated. But eventually discarded and exchanged for something better.
All relationships can change. Sometimes it is difficult to know what kind of change we need, but all relationships either change or they die.
Marriages either weather the seasons or they wither. Maybe it's time to start thinking about the change you need in your marriage.