The more I do this job, the more I believe that keeping a marriage or relationship strong is simpler than we make it. The problem is that, over the years, we let small choices compound and multiply so that when we look back on a relationship in distress, we see years of neglect and conflict instead the simple decisions to reach out or not.
Many marriage crises are preventable. The simple choice to reach out for connection day after day can make the difference between couples in distress and couples who thrive. If it is not working, it is best to seek help sooner rather than later, before those wounds turn to callouses.